06 June 2010
Sentimental Accounting Dynamics
06/06/10 06:48
Hope everyone had a nice Memorial weekend.
As I mentioned in our previous letter, last weekend was Mario and Robyn's wedding. A very full, event filled few days that we've mostly recovered from. One of the highlights was all the music at the reception. At the time I hadn't prepped it but here now is a link to a video of my cousin Mike playing and singing. He's really good and if anyone comes out here you must try to catch him. He has a full time job as a school teacher and does this evenings and weekends, (that is until next year when he retires and can play all he wants).
http://web.me.com/geoduck/ShiShi/Mike_Playing_.html
We also got a couple of videos of Bobs and Lolo but performance is their business so I won't be posting them. Suffice it to say it was a bit weird to see full grown adults dancing and singing to I Love Bugs and Raindrop Pop.
On the theme of love and marriage, this week is our 23rd wedding anniversary. Yes we've been together through thick and thin. Through good times and bad. Through it all we've stuck together. The question is how? Why have we survived so long together. Well, humour has a bit to do with it. Nary a day goes by without Marsha looking at me and saying "Oh yeah, you're soooo funny". She bites her tongue afterwards, but the important part is that she says it.
Also critical to a long lasting relationship is for the couple to work together. Be there for each other. Work together and help each other through good times and bad. The sum is stronger than each part. Marriage is a team effort. There is no I in Marriage. (OK maybe there is, but...)
A couple of weeks ago I ran across an article about how to keep a relationship together that brought the whole subject into focus.
http://www.plosone.org/article/info:doi%2F10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0009881
My favourite bit is near the end where the authors state:
The conclusions for couple durability should remain valid in a less ideal scenario as long as the formulation of the second law (of thermodynamics) is considered valid. More realistic assumptions like (weak) heterogamy, presence of external shocks or sub-optimal behaviour, probably enter the scene as contributing factors enforcing instability. The effort gap plus the unveiled instability identify an essential intrinsic mechanism for probable sentimental failure.
That's so beautiful. I get choked up each time I read it. I'm also thinking of sending this part of the article on a card to Mario and Robyn with all of our wedding pictures:
I think that sums it up in a very poetic way
Lastly, love can come from the most unexpected places. Yesterday Marsha took Geiger and Momiji out into the back yard. They were on leashes and she's done this several times before. Geiger explores the grass and Momiji lounges in the sun in one of the chairs on the deck. After 15-20 minutes it was time to go in. Marsha picked up Momiji, only this time she didn't want to go. She started yowling, and hissing and clawing. Apparently Geiger thought Marsha was doing something bad because he flew up the stairs to the deck to defend Momiji. Suddenly Marsha found herself in the middle of a cat-fight and the cats were after HER! She dropped Momiji who ran inside followed by Geiger. When Marsha got inside (after stopping the bleeding that is) she found the two of them sitting in a corner licking and grooming each other only pausing to glare at her from time to time. As aloof as cats are they do form bonds and we now know the bond between Geiger and Momiji is stronger than either of their bonds to us. I guess a couple that claws together stays together.
Now that's romance.
D&M
Here are some pictures of our lupin in our back yard. We planted one pink plant last year and this year have both purple and pink flowers.
As I mentioned in our previous letter, last weekend was Mario and Robyn's wedding. A very full, event filled few days that we've mostly recovered from. One of the highlights was all the music at the reception. At the time I hadn't prepped it but here now is a link to a video of my cousin Mike playing and singing. He's really good and if anyone comes out here you must try to catch him. He has a full time job as a school teacher and does this evenings and weekends, (that is until next year when he retires and can play all he wants).
http://web.me.com/geoduck/ShiShi/Mike_Playing_.html
We also got a couple of videos of Bobs and Lolo but performance is their business so I won't be posting them. Suffice it to say it was a bit weird to see full grown adults dancing and singing to I Love Bugs and Raindrop Pop.
On the theme of love and marriage, this week is our 23rd wedding anniversary. Yes we've been together through thick and thin. Through good times and bad. Through it all we've stuck together. The question is how? Why have we survived so long together. Well, humour has a bit to do with it. Nary a day goes by without Marsha looking at me and saying "Oh yeah, you're soooo funny". She bites her tongue afterwards, but the important part is that she says it.
Also critical to a long lasting relationship is for the couple to work together. Be there for each other. Work together and help each other through good times and bad. The sum is stronger than each part. Marriage is a team effort. There is no I in Marriage. (OK maybe there is, but...)
A couple of weeks ago I ran across an article about how to keep a relationship together that brought the whole subject into focus.
http://www.plosone.org/article/info:doi%2F10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0009881
My favourite bit is near the end where the authors state:
The conclusions for couple durability should remain valid in a less ideal scenario as long as the formulation of the second law (of thermodynamics) is considered valid. More realistic assumptions like (weak) heterogamy, presence of external shocks or sub-optimal behaviour, probably enter the scene as contributing factors enforcing instability. The effort gap plus the unveiled instability identify an essential intrinsic mechanism for probable sentimental failure.
That's so beautiful. I get choked up each time I read it. I'm also thinking of sending this part of the article on a card to Mario and Robyn with all of our wedding pictures:
I think that sums it up in a very poetic way
Lastly, love can come from the most unexpected places. Yesterday Marsha took Geiger and Momiji out into the back yard. They were on leashes and she's done this several times before. Geiger explores the grass and Momiji lounges in the sun in one of the chairs on the deck. After 15-20 minutes it was time to go in. Marsha picked up Momiji, only this time she didn't want to go. She started yowling, and hissing and clawing. Apparently Geiger thought Marsha was doing something bad because he flew up the stairs to the deck to defend Momiji. Suddenly Marsha found herself in the middle of a cat-fight and the cats were after HER! She dropped Momiji who ran inside followed by Geiger. When Marsha got inside (after stopping the bleeding that is) she found the two of them sitting in a corner licking and grooming each other only pausing to glare at her from time to time. As aloof as cats are they do form bonds and we now know the bond between Geiger and Momiji is stronger than either of their bonds to us. I guess a couple that claws together stays together.
Now that's romance.
D&M
Here are some pictures of our lupin in our back yard. We planted one pink plant last year and this year have both purple and pink flowers.